I started a weight loss program last week, deciding that my condition was not going to change unless I actually did something significantly different. I find that I move along aware of the problem, thinking about the problem, wishing my habits would change, even planning to change, but not taking the steps needed. (It reminds me of the long touted saying , ” Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”) So I changed something. I find I do better with support, so I joined an organized program. Others like to take on these challenges with fierce independence. If there is something you want to change, choose a path that works for you, that addresses your challenges.
The process of making changes is interesting. I find that too often I start with goals that are too big. I often start with the end goal. Transformation takes place one step at a time. Think of building a house. I picture the finished house, then start looking at all the aspects of completing a house and feel overwhelmed. It’s not really an effective way to get things done. Breaking into pieces and identifying the sequence helps the task actually get accomplished. Get the plans, get the permit, complete the foundation, raise the walls, build the roof… you get the picture. Some people might call these baby steps and maybe they are. It’s a process of breaking down the task into segments that can be identified, defined, and accomplished. If you skip any steps, the end product doesn’t materialize.
All projects, (losing weight, building houses, changing habits, seeking help) start with incremental steps. They take time and perseverance. Change is a project. My project is a pretty big one. I’m sure there will be roadblocks, maybe set-backs, but I intend to keep going toward completing the project, one do-able task at a time.
You can do this, too.
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